Release Toxic Relationships Without Resentment

Here's a hard but valuable lesson I've needed to learn in my life:

A lot of times, we'll think of ending or moving away from relationships, especially with long-term friends, family members and the like, as something we can only do with hate, resentment, or anger.

The idea of walking away from something that's always been there, and that has served your past self, seems to be something that people imagine demands someone to be mean-spirited or resentful.

But, that couldn't be further from the truth.

In truth, walking away might be the most loving thing you do in the current state of the relationship.

Not only to yourself, but to the person you're letting go of.

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Why Leaving Might Be the Most Loving Thing You Can Do

First of all, when you remain in relationships that go against your intrinsic needs, values, and desires and that aren't truly supportive of your highest self and divine purpose on this earth - you're not being loving to yourself nor to your creator.

Walking away allows you to sacrifice comfort for authenticity, and you can't have both.

Not only that, if you don't set hard boundaries (that sometimes will result in leaving or removing yourself from the relationship) you condone their behavior, communicate that their actions (or lack thereof) are acceptable, and you limit their potential growth.

Let me be clear.

You can't control whether they will learn from losing you. In my personal experience, that certainly doesn't always happen.

But that's also not your responsibility or problem.

Your responsibility is ensuring you don't condone or engage with behaviors and values that conflict with your own.

So you move on because the relationship isn't right for you and it isn't a space where you feel authentic, cherished, celebrated, and valued.

And, because the only way for you to truly share love and acceptance - both for yourself and for them - is to recognize that sometimes it's no longer an aligned match.

And that is loving to you and it is loving to them.

Because it teaches them what's okay and what's not, and gives them a chance to choose to make different choices in their own lives.

And it shows them that everyone deserves to be cherished, seen, and valued and you showing up for yourself like that gives others permission to do so too.

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What People Think of You Doesn't Define You, It Defines Them

Keep in mind, it's ultimately up to them whether they decide to take that uncomfortable action or not.

Also remember, people tend to judge from the outside looking in.

They will create opinions and judgments based on looking at something externally, hearing from other people who don't actually know what's on your heart, and they will be more focused on making themselves understood than to understand you.

This is important to keep in mind because what people think of you doesn't define you, it defines them.

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I know (with 10000%) that it can be SUPER hard to let go, move on, end a relationship - especially one you've had for a long time, and perhaps even more so a relationship that society tells you is "unbreakable" or "something you can't choose."

So I'm not telling you it's going to be easy if you do leave it.

But I am saying it might be the most loving response you can choose and it is something you can do with so much love and gratitude - which no one can take away from you.